Deepak Perwani and Tazeen Hussain aka Ashar and Zubia from Jama Taqseem, join us today for a conversation that’s part insightful, part about Jama Taqseem, and part about this hypocritical society!
This article is an excerpt from the YouTube interview.
Should A Girl’s Parents Stay At Their Daughter’s House?
While Jama Taqseem sparked a lot of discussion, it also made us question some long-held social ideas. We talked about this with Tazeen Hussain and Deepak Perwani, and they shared some interesting perspectives.
Deepak explained that this is a very old idea: when a daughter is married, she is considered to belong to her husband’s family, and so does the house. Traditionally, the expectation is that daughters leave their parents’ home and become part of their husband’s household. He appreciated that the conversation was being opened up, especially the question Zubia raised at the dining table about what families without sons should do – he called it a very thoughtful question.
Tazeen added that while rehearsing the scenes, they worked hard to get the tone right. They experimented with different ways of delivering the lines, trying not to come across too harsh, though some moments naturally showed the tension and frustration that come with these expectations.
Is Zubia Protecting Her Daughter Or Interfering?
When asked whether Zubia’s character is interfering or protecting her daughter, Tazeen said she is actually doing both. She emphasized that parents should take a stand for their children and speak up for them.
Deepak added that every parent naturally wants the best for their child. In Zubia’s case, it reflects a subtle fear many parents feel – the feeling that their child could have done better, even if it’s not openly admitted.
Tazeen, however, clarified that Zubia’s concern isn’t about her daughter doing “better” or being wealthier. Her real worry is that she isn’t able to witness her daughter’s growth. She wants her daughter to apply what she has learned and use her knowledge, and that’s where her protective instincts come from.
Was Laila’s Lifestyle Influencing Her Decision To Marry Into A Joint Family?
Laila was brought up in a loving environment, but one that also had its moments of loneliness, and perhaps that influenced her choice to marry into a big joint family. Deepak explained that while joint families come with their own challenges, it’s natural for Laila to be drawn to that bustling household with kids and extended family. In contrast, her own home with Ashar and Zubia is calmer – her parents are focused on each other and their own passions, making their life very comfortable and stable.
Tazeen added that Zubia represents women who have prioritized their careers while raising children. She may not have intentionally focused less on the home or kids, but over time her career became central. Now, as she retires, she reflects on her choices. Even if she doesn’t openly miss Laila, she continues to love and protect her in her own way. Zubia’s belief is clear: it’s time for children to spread their wings, and parents can live their own lives alongside that.
Want to hear more? Stay tuned for full conversation coming out soon on FUCHSIA Magazine’s YouTube channel!
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