Did you cry with Barbeena as she recalls all her moments with Baraan or were you happy that she can live her life with respect and dignity as Haji Mushtaq’s wife? Did Haji Mushtaq’s family’s decision to celebrate the nikah with events rather than underplay it, made it as uncomfortable for you to watch as it was for Haji sahib? Is Kabli Pulao making us face our own biases and deconstruct our judgmental mindset?
Thoughts On The Wedding Festivities
Kabli Pulao makes us think…
- Were the celebrations necessary, since they made Haji Mushtaq so uncomfortable?
- If we succumb to the idea of log kiya kahengey, change will never happen… when we walk the path of discomfort, we open doors for others.
- Were these festivities meant more as an emphatic response to all those pointing fingers at the family rather than celebrating Haji’s nikah?
A Meeting Of Souls
It was so endearing to witness the bond between Haji Sahib and Barbeena … how he was concerned for her and that she might be missing Baraan even more today. So just like us, Haji sahib also thinks Barbeena married him to protect herself from any other man coming into her life and taking Baraan’s place, thinking Haji will not expect her to be a wife. Though Barbeena avoided his question, and we wonder why?
Barbeena makes us consider another side of marriage and relationship that is beyond age, colour, cast or physical attraction – it is RESPECT. If you have that, if you have companionship, maybe you don’t need love, or maybe this is another word for love? Share your views with us in comments below.
Applause for director “Kashif Nisar” and writer “Zafar Mairaj” for beautifully integrating Barbeena’s past in the story. We not only get to experience her relationship with Baraan, but the scene also made us feel for her. How beautifully the team achieved multiple emotions through one episode.
Shameem’s Public Shaming
Though what Shameem did was not right, but what the family did to Shameem was also not acceptable. We wish Haji sahib had stopped them from shaming her or inviting her to the ceremony. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Shameem is already going through so much and was already embarrassed, she didn’t need this extra dose of “pyar sey bayizzati”.
Shameem was stuck in such a tight situation. If she hadn’t attended the wedding party, people would have accused her of being a sore loser and attending the mehndi itself was punishment enough for her. Looks like the old shadee ka jora signifies something for her lost love…why do you think she wants that jora so desperately?
Zubaida Won Our Hearts!
On the other hand, Barbeena and the Zubaida’s conversation on what to address each other was poignantly beautiful. Zubaida opens her heart to Barbeena and shows a purity, human goals to aspire to if we want to elevate ourselves from any form of toxicity or negativity in relationships. Zubaida opens our heart and home to Barbeena and shows us how life’s seemingly complex situations are not really that complex if we consider them from a human perspective! Zubaida won our hearts in this episode!
Chammo Needs To Let Go
Dear Chammo, we were so disappointed to see you dampening the celebrations. We understand you are going through a lot, but at this moment, perhaps you should have been less selfish. Questioning Barbeena’s character and holding her responsible for your divorce was really below the belt. Ghaffar… well, just like the family, we are also wondering what to do with him? We wish Chammo would find the courage to leave him. Chammo represents the sad reality of many women who love their husbands despite their unfair and abusive behavior. Zaki bhai on the other hand is such a heart winner. All respect to him.
Gen Z Gets It!
Is the younger generation more accepting of all types of relationships as compared to their parents? The nieces and nephews seem to be the ones who are really happy and accepting the relationship open-heartedly. Is it education or more exposure due to the spread of social media? The older niece Ayesha mentions what she has learnt and imbibed thanks to her expensive education.
