Ahh… hum bohat sad hain kay Hala nay jhoot bola and so not looking forward to the price she will have to pay. Hamza wins us again when he tells Hala “Tum janti ho mujhay” What a beautifully executed scene. Move over Shah Jahan, Khurram has just replaced you as the meanest, ruthless, and most torturous villain. Scroll down to catch FUCHSIA’s review of Mere Humsafar.
Should We Judge Hala For Lying?
However, it must be pointed out that our dramas are repeatedly placing the reputation of a woman up for scrutiny by the entire khaandaan. The issue of a past relationship is a matter of extreme personal nature, only to be shared between a husband and wife behind closed doors. Hala’s reaction cannot be judged solely on the fact that she did it before a family tribunal, which was both unfair and unjustified. It also sets a poor example to all those watching in our society by normalizing this mode of questioning and accusation of a daughter-in-law.
Yes, Hala should have come out in private to Hamza, which is another matter altogether, and can set goals for honesty in a relationship, considering she knows her spouse is willing to listen. In this case, Hamza swings between gentle love and sudden bursts of anger when pushed to the brink, hence, Hala being Hala, with all her past domestic abuse issues, chose the safer route (which, we’re sure, many women do) when they are faced with the risk of being thrown out of their home and relationship (with nowhere to go).
Don’t judge her dishonesty when she’s put before a family tribunal. These matters are best discussed in private if at all. Husbands must know it shouldn’t matter if a girl has had a past relationship. You are her present. He was her past. So stop asking questions Hamza.
We would have been so behind Hamza if he would have told Hala, it doesn’t matter, I don’t want to know. Your past has nothing to do with our present, or future, for that matter! This would have been the woke narrative we would have applauded – the Hamza we were growing to love and admire just showed us he is, after all, a product of the society. Dream over!
A Round Of Applause For The Direction
When Hala cries and addresses Allah that Allah, you understand why I had to lie, please forgive me – an impactful direction by Qasim Ali Mureed and heart touching performance by Hania Aamir that took many of us to the moments when we have cried our hearts out as we battle a crushing dukh or difficulty in life.
Qasim Ali Mureed deserves special appreciation. Amidst all the negativity and toxicity, he keeps gifting us gentle, romantic moments between Hala and Hamza, maintaining the fairy-tailish aspect of the drama. Also if we take it to another level, the drama delivers husband goals to bring back the gentle romance from their side in relationships and balance maan & biwi (excluding his mistrust of Hala in the previous episode).
On the contrary, (this is us playing devil’s advocate), Hamza’s stance in the previous episode and then him, warming up again to Hala in this episode might be a realistic representation of husbands but is far from the ideal we’d like to see. Hamza attempted to ‘fix’ the issues between his mom and sister with genuine intentions, but perhaps, in all fairness, failed to see that his mother is beyond hope and will continue to do more damage than good.
Maybe this should have given Hala the confidence to tell him the truth?
Oh wow, Khurram is crossing all lines of ruthlessness, he just wants to torture Hala without taking an ounce of responsibility for his own actions. Do you think he is more dangerous than Shah Jahan?
Can’t Shah Jahan See His Son’s Pure Intentions?
Hamza’s dialogues to his mother about her mental condition were heart breaking. Though this time she is telling the truth, but still, we ask how can she be so blinded in her hate toward Hala that she completely forgets about the love and peace in her son’s heart? Even if she is telling the truth, why accuse Hala and ruin her son’s marriage?
Mere Humsafar also calls out to many of us who do the wrong things to save ourselves but in reality, also doubt our trust in Allah. Hala believes that through Khurram’s denial and her own too, Allah has kept her pardah. Can one wrong action to save a relationship be justified and dishonesty to achieve our ends be acceptable by Allah? Doesn’t a lie show our lack of trust in Allah?
However, it is important to take a step back and understand, that we are often too quick to judge. Allah’s decisions cannot and should not be second guessed by anyone, no matter how wrong someone’s action seems to us, it is not for us to judge.
Two Important Lessons For All Couples
Two important lessons from Mere Humsafar for all couples: You cannot lie, but trust Allah… no matter what, especially if you have not done anything wrong. Khurram is Hala’s past. 2nd, a relationship is based on trust and honesty. Coming out with the truth is the foremost requirement.
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