Ahmed Randhawa and Emaan Khan, aka Rohaan and Inaya from Chalbaaz, joined us today for a thoughtful conversation!
This article is an excerpt from the YouTube interview.
Why Is The Past Important In Relationships?
Ahmed Randhawa shared his thoughts on whether people should reveal their past relationships to their future partners. He believes that honesty and transparency matter, especially before marriage. According to him, before you get married, you don’t owe anyone loyalty—but if there’s something in your past, it’s better to tell your partner once and let them decide. He feels that hiding such things can create bigger problems later, as the truth often comes out one way or another. Ahmed added that while it’s difficult, being upfront helps build trust. Once you’ve shared your past and chosen each other, then both partners should let go of what’s behind and move forward with loyalty and understanding.
Emaan Khan had a slightly different perspective. She feels that a man never really forgets –“a man never forgets,” she said with a laugh. In her view, even if years pass, there’s always a moment when he might recall the past or bring it up again. She explained that sometimes, even when a woman tries to move on and become a better version of herself, a man may remind her of her mistakes, saying, “Don’t you remember what you did?”
What Are The Red Flags We Often Ignore In Relationships?
When asked about red flags in relationships, Emaan Khan was quick to point out that, most of the time, we girls ourselves ignore them. She explained that anger, misbehaviour, the way someone treats you, whether they make you a priority, give you time, respect you, or stand up for you – these are all clear indicators of how healthy a relationship is. Yet, despite noticing these things, girls often excuse them. “Girls tell themselves, he loves me, that’s why he’s acting this way… or he’ll change, just give him time,” Emaan said. She added that many girls wait and hope their partners will eventually take a stand for them, only to later realise that those were actually the red flags they chose to overlook.
Ahmed Randhawa agreed, saying that it works both ways. “Girls often say, he’s just angry – it’s his nature,” he said, describing how people justify toxic behaviour in the name of love. He shared that even when friends see someone in a problematic relationship, they often can’t understand why that person keeps going back. “She gets angry, but then when the guy returns, she forgives him because she’s in love,” Ahmed explained. He noted that people end up giving excuses for toxic behaviour, putting on what he called a “blindfold,” unable to see clearly. “It’s really sad,” he said. “So many people go through pain because of it, and it’s very hard to come out of it.”
Joint Family System – Yes or No?
When it came to the question of living in a joint family, Emaan Khan was quick to say yes. She shared that while growing up, her family lived in a small flat, so they eventually had to move into separate spaces. But in her own future, she would love to have a joint family setup. For her, it’s not about interference – it’s about understanding the kind of people you’re living with. “You just have to see what kind of people they are,” she said with a smile, suggesting that if the relationships are built on mutual respect and comfort, the joint system can actually be a beautiful experience.
Ahmed Randhawa, however, had a more nuanced take. He agreed that everyone loves their family, but he also believes that space is very important. He explained that a joint family works well only if there’s enough physical and emotional space for everyone – especially for the wife to feel comfortable. “If your wife can adjust with your parents, and you have enough space for everyone, that’s great,” he said. “But if she’s feeling suffocated or irritated, then it’s better to live separately.” Ahmed stressed that while parents are a son’s responsibility, it’s not fair to expect the wife to serve or manage them unless she’s doing it willingly and happily. “There should be no compulsion,” he added.
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