The good and evil side of Tere Bin. While we are deeply in love with the cute and romantic moments of Murtasim and Meerab, we cannot ignore the regressive messages that the drama is sending out through the very same characters.
Cute Romance
Meerab ki jealousy and Murtasim kee laperwahi, both are giving us just the perfect combination of love-hate, and chemistry. The Gol gappa scene was the ultimate heart-winner. Especially Meerab teasing Murtasim, but with her own adaa and nakhras. After last night’s Tere Bin episode, Gol gappas have become our favourite food after kheer.
A Sudden Reminder From Rohail
Did Rohail just remind Meerab of all that she had lost, all that Murtasim’s intense love is making her forget? The life she had, the aims she had dreamt of achieving, the independence she enjoyed and was used to? And the moment she remembers that Murtasim is responsible for the loss of her past life. But can she really blame him? He is also stuck in a marriage where his wife refuses to accept him…
Meerab’s Wisdom Strikes Again & Then Maa Begum?
We loved Meerab’s dialogue ”mein kisi kay peechy nahin bhaagti”. Such a beautiful message that was sent out to all the girls to keep their pride and self-respect, no matter what. Again, her question to Maa Begum as to why she didn’t get Haya & Murtasim married was relevant and showed Meerab’s praiseworthy sense of always seeking a fair & just outcome in life, even if she doesn’t approve of the person in question.
Ma Begum speaking gently with Meerab was a heart-warming scene till she starts the conversation about Meerab giving herself to Murtasim.
That was a disappointing conversation between Maa Begum and Meerab. Telling Meerab to love and take care of Murtasim so that eventually she will be happy. We have come a long way to teach our girls to not accept this mentality. For parents to not force decisions of marriage or career choices on their daughters and then think that, eventually, she will be happy. A girl should not be expected to give up and be happy in whatever situation she is in, just because the other person is good, or others believe this is good for her. Her will and her marzi matters. Forced decisions ko kismet sumajh ker qabool ker lo…is not the mantra we need to advocate here.
But the conversation sent that regressive message with full force. Meerab who had dreams and who was cornered in this marriage is now being told to accept Murtasim, love him and in turn, she will be happy. This one message overshadows all the romance and cute moments, taking us back many years. We wish desperately that this message was not given.
Ownership Issues
Murtasim’s streak of wanting to own his beloved in the bangles scene was another angle that perhaps could have been shown in a different way. Demonstrating love to your wife in public by giving her bangles or helping her wear them is absolutely fine, but to bring in aggressiveness and possessiveness is a tricky path to take. We must be careful with the kind of idealism we are sending out through portrayals of romance.
That Dupatta Scene!
Last but not the least, when the drama is so big on everything, then the dupatta scene could have also been executed in a better way that actually showed a dreamy sequence and a more tastefully done set. We have seen these dupattas many times… you know where… ahem ahem…fiction and oh so cute romantic moments.
