Mariyam Nafees doesn’t hold back, and isn’t that inspiring? Recently, she’s been in the news for her stance on polygamy, and below are the details, along with many netizens who agree with her.
Whether spreading her message and opinions through her social media platforms or voicing her opinions on television shows where she’s invited, she truly doesn’t believe in holding back. Even if it means exposing those who believe they possess the moral compass and authority to judge and make assumptions about people on the internet. What a brave human.
She’s making headlines for good reasons. Most recently, she garnered attention when she publicly identified and criticized individuals who persisted in character assassinating women, particularly actresses. She addressed the issue of people labeling actresses as prostitutes and receiving unwelcome advances from numerous individuals attempting inappropriate deals with her. These actions were based on the sickening assumption that, because she works in the media industry, anything goes.
Mariyam Nafees Is Repping Many With Her Stance On Multiple Marriages/Polygamy
Mariyam Nafees, actor, model, producer, and activist, has made waves once again. She appeared as a guest on Ahmed Ali Butt’s show, ‘Mind Na Karna’, where she was questioned about the concept of having more than one spouse.
Firstly, she sought clarification from the host whether he meant having three spouses simultaneously or three consecutively. She then expressed her stance, stating that if it’s one after another, she doesn’t mind, but if it’s marrying three individuals simultaneously, she does mind. Ahmed Ali Butt played the devil’s advocate, citing that it is allowed in our religion. Mariyam promptly interjected to correct him.
She further emphasized that it is also explicitly stated in the religion, “Agar tum. kar sakou tou, aur tum nahi kar pao gay,” to which Ahmed nodded. Another female anchor nodded in agreement with Mariyam’s statement.
Ahmed Ali Butt though continued to defend his stance, “Magar haan, insaaf ki baat horai hai, lekin yeh bhi kaha gaya hai kay agar aap 4 biwiyon ko khush rakh saktay hain,” followed by another anchor, Mehreen, who interrupted him to say, “Jo keh nae rakh pao gay.” Mariyam then continued to logically articulate her point, stating, “because it is not humanly possible. I respect that our religion does allow it, but I personally feel, being a woman, that no woman or very few women would be okay to share their husband in that way. I wouldn’t.” She added, “I would tell them to go for it but leave me first.”
Even Our Dramas Are Now Venturing Out To Show The Internal Struggles Of A Woman Whose Husband Marries More Than Once
We continue to see this narrative in our Pakistani dramas, which are usually blamed for being regressive or sensational content. However, in “Neem,” we saw Mawra Hocane’s character aptly amplify the internal struggles of a young woman who encountered this problem, and if I’m not mistaken, Mariyam was the second wife.
Mawra’s character and the mental pain she went through after her husband married a second time were palpable and very sensitively portrayed. Yes, we saw that she had encouraged it herself at first and even found him the wife because she could not have children, but once he married, she couldn’t come to terms with it, though she tried very hard.
The Comments Section Is A Pleasant Surprise!
Above all, let us tell you we are so pleased for one other reason… we as a society, as women and even men, are learning to rally behind each other, calling out wrongs. We are relieved and, for once, grateful there was not a single negative comment. The comments are full of praise for Mariyam, and we couldn’t agree with them more.
One user wrote, “So proud of this woman, the way she answered everything.” Another rightly pointed out how we often parade around shouting and screaming that four marriages are allowed, but seldom or actually rarely do we bother to read up about the conditions that come with it.
It was heartening to see men themselves putting an end to this debate in the comments section. One male netizen said, “As a man, I support her, and whoever is against it should really just think about their own mother.” Another added, “Exactly. While there is permission to do it, it’s not possible to maintain equality across all spouses. It’s just not doable.”
For some more context, here’s a comment that delved a bit deeper into the said reasoning: “It is even said that ek chawal ke daaney ka farq bhi nahin hona chaiye. That much equality is required. And moreover this was a permission given at a time when war had caused many men to become shaheed, that left behind a lot of women widowed, and divorced women also existed then as well. In order to provide protection or provide for them, it was permissible then. But it was constantly reiterated that even if it is permissible, it does not mean you do it. Because the conditions to complete cannot be completed. EK DAANEY KA BHI FARQ NAHIN HONA CHAIYE. And y’all really think you guys can keep 2 women, let alone 4 women equally happy in terms of finances, emotions, time, effort and what not? Come on. Be real. And stop twisting the 4 shaadi thing just because you wanna have more wives and affairs that you can justify by saying ‘we will marry’. Stop weaponising this in such an incorrect manner that it’s disgraceful to the context and every condition given. Don’t give Islam a bad name by constantly going off about 4 wives. Idher tak hi Islam rehta hai sab ka?”
Well, what did you think of Mariyam’s approach to clarifying this?
