Five Reasons Why Pinjra is A Critical Parenting Handbook For The Present Generation
From Abaan refusing to come home, to Abeer refusing to go back too, Pinjra is showing us how children will eventually reject a home, family and suffocating parenting once they are old enough to take a decision.
No One Parent is Responsible For Bad Parenting
Javed is the father who has always meant well, he has tended to his family’s financial, and material needs, but neglected the communication, emotional well-being and interactive aspect of what makes a house a home. It is perhaps not fair to judge or blame Javed alone. Khadija too, has been a silent bystander in the process, equally terrified of her husband’s wrath and hence, always taking the easy way out by agreeing with him and not standing up, even when her sixth sense warned her that what she’s doing is not all right.
Sometimes You have To Let Go & Also Listen To the Silent Messages
Khadija realizing that Abaan needs time, he is going through a lot, and finally, she must listen to him was a painful lesson in parenting. We can’t always do what we feel as parents is the right thing to do. Abaan not wanting to meet his family is sending out painful silent messages that he holds them all responsible for his present. His silence screams anger, rage, frustration which will probably find a voice in later episodes.
Favouritism Is STILL A Thing
When we treat one child as a favorite, or better than others, we tend to differentiate between our children, sometimes consciously and sometimes, unknowingly. Therefore, parents must learn to be very careful and responsible with their choice of words – both Khadija and Javed showed a blatant preference for Azaan, and this behavior has not only harmed their relationship with their other two children but also put Azaan in a difficult situation as he struggles to reach out to his siblings who, being human after all, hold him partially responsible, especially Abaan.
Growing As A Parent Is A Constant Journey!
Khadija’s struggle to become assertive is a tough battle for any human being who has been used to being the follower, the second in command in a relationship. Pinjra is a message to all married couples that the quality of your relationship sends out messages to your children, it’s not just about you, it’s about your family and the life lessons and relationship goals you set for them. The people and partners they will become is all about the people and partners they see within their family.
Our Children Need Role Models, Not Rules. And We Are The First Ones They Learn From
Abeer’s experience living in a semi normal family environment at Wajiha’s place has made her realize what an isolating and forbidding life she led in her own home. Not just that, but in adult life, she and Dua both might have trust issues when choosing a life partner because they do not have a male role model to look up to. A reminder that when your children do not have a father, or a father who is not your ideal example of what your children would aspire to have in their lives, present such role models to them in the face of other people, or ask your husband to seek therapy together as a couple or alone.
We must begin acknowledging that we need and will seek help, only then can change be real and lasting.
Pinjra is also setting fantastic goals in creating awareness about teen behavior, NGO’s working for child rehabilitation, drug abuse in schools and why love, communication and letting go of stringent discipline patterns might just create more loving, caring and happy families.
Success after all, has to do a lot with mental wellbeing.
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