Join us today as we celebrate the newlyweds, Juvaria Abbasi and Adeel Haider! Congratulations to the lovely couple on their happy union! Let’s take a closer look at their heart-warming love story and find out how they met!
What is marriage but a bond that goes beyond societal expectations, age, or timing? It’s a connection built on love, trust, and the courage to defy norms. In a world where certain life choices are often stigmatized, the idea of finding love and remarrying later in life can seem a risky step. But why should it be? Today, we’re honored to have Adeel Haider and Juvaria Abbasi with us, who have embraced love fearlessly and proven that marriage is about personal happiness, not society’s timeline. Their story challenges us to rethink taboos and reminds us that love has no expiration date.
Let’s hear their story!
Jab We Met?
Adeel and Juvaria’s story began unexpectedly during a dinner hosted by a mutual friend. While Adeel was immediately drawn to her presence, Juvaria was unaware of his interest at first.
I didn’t know him I was meeting him for the first time. So it was a nice, decent and good conversation.
Juvaria Abbasi
Their initial conversation was polite and courteous, laying the groundwork for what would become a life-changing connection. Intrigued by the woman he had just met, Adeel spent the next two days researching Juvaria, wanting to learn more about her.
When we met for the first time, I didn’t know who Juvaria Abbasi was.
Adeel Haider
Interestingly, Adeel hadn’t recognized Juvaria as the well-known actress she was, admitting he didn’t watch television, particularly Pakistani dramas. Despite this, he was drawn to her personality rather than her fame. He found her fascinating and wanted to build a deeper connection beyond their casual first meeting.
It was the family dynamics that was stopping us.
Adeel Hussain
Anzela was my only big responsibility. I wanted her to get married and then I’ll take a decision for myself. So, this is what happened.
Juvaria Abbasi
However, both Adeel and Juvaria were initially hesitant about moving forward, primarily due to family dynamics. Juvaria, a devoted mother, was focused on ensuring her daughter. Anzela must be settled before making any personal decisions, prioritized Juvaria. Adeel, understanding her situation, gave her the space she needed, allowing time for their bond to strengthen naturally.
Over the course of two years, their friendship forged a deeper bond. They spent time together, getting to know each other through shared moments with mutual friends. Though they remained friends during this period, their deeper feelings grew, with Adeel eventually confessing his love for Juvaria.
Ek din subha, he called me (to finalize the Nikah date). It was Monday. And then the whole day I was crying and sobbing. I was just crying and I didn’t know what to do and whether to say yes or no. I didn’t know. Then at night we met and I was like, okay, I’m ready now.
Juvaria Abbasi
The official proposal came not long after, and this time, Adeel was ready to take the next step. His straightforward approach caught Juvaria off guard—he proposed on a Monday and expressed his desire to marry by Friday. Overwhelmed by the suddenness, Juvaria spent the day in tears, unsure of how to proceed. By the evening, however, she made her decision, choosing to embrace their future together.
How Do Societal Expectations Affect The Pursuit Of Happiness In Later Life?
Nobody was talking about my happiness… I am very happy for her of course, she is my daughter.
Juvaria Abbasi
Juvaria Abbasi expressed her frustrations about societal expectations, emphasizing that while everyone celebrated her daughter’s happiness, she grappled with societal pressures that dictated she should focus on familial roles instead of her own desires. Juvaria revealed that comments about her age and marital status disheartened her, causing her to question her self-worth and future. After fulfilling her responsibilities toward her daughter, she realized it was finally her time to seek happiness.
The responses were very good. 90% very good comments. But there were some comments like, this is the age to pray to Allah, she is getting married. These types of comments depress you. When you are alone, you think, those things hurt you a lot. And they make you lose hope. It’s not like you don’t have hope inside. People make you lose hope. They keep telling you that you are aging, your time is over, You have nothing to look forward to. I think that after Anzela’s marriage, I had the time to think about myself. I wanted to make my own home. Because all the hard work I had done all these years, I was doing it for her. But I had to keep her well, I had to give her a good upbringing, I had to send her to a good school. I was working hard for it, right? But after I gave in, I fulfilled all my responsibilities,… But unfortunately, in our society, you are 40 and above, and you are told again and again that you have no life, and you sit on a bed, or do crochet.
Juvaria Abbasi
The societal pressure to conform to certain norms, especially for Juvaria, over 40 now, created a challenging environment. She acknowledged that society often discouraged women from pursuing their own happiness after a certain age, urging them instead to focus on traditional roles. Yet, she desired to break free from these limitations and carve out a new path for herself, finding it difficult but necessary to assert her identity.
No, it’s not easier at all. For women, definitely it’s far more difficult. there is a backlash that your first wife or your kids, what impact will it have on them? What impact will it have on their life? I mean, at any point or age, if you feel that this is the right partner for me, with whom I want to spend the rest of my life, why not? You should definitely fulfil your responsibilities… But everyone is an individual. Everyone should have the right to live their life in their own way. That’s the bottom line.
Adeel Haider
Conversely, Adeel shared that while men might not face the same societal scrutiny regarding age, they also experience their own set of challenges, particularly concerning previous relationships and children. He noted that while society did not explicitly pressure men to conform to age-related norms, they still faced emotional burdens, especially regarding how their decisions might impact their children and families. Adeel argued that if someone found a compatible partner, regardless of age, they should feel free to pursue happiness.
Some girls/women said that you have given us hope, that we can get better in life and why not? And many people gave us hope, like Samina Apa, Bushra Ansari; they got married at a much older age than me, both of them, and they are very happy Mashallah so after seeing them I felt that there is no problem… they have grandchildren too. Â
Juvaria Abbasi
Juvaria Abbasi expressed her happiness, drawing inspiration from figures like Samina Ahmed and Bushra Ansari, who found love later in life. Their stories inspired her to realize that happiness and fulfilment are attainable at any age. She highlighted how society often overlooks women as individuals with desires, focusing solely on their roles as mothers or caregivers. Juvaria passionately questioned why societal norms dictate that one must marry at a certain age, stressing that personal happiness should not fall victim to outdated perceptions.
So as far as age factor is concerned, I think there is no difference there. At this age you know exactly where you are standing, what position you are in, what your partner likes and dislikes, what are your feelings, what you have to move out with. I think it’s a good time to get married. I think this is even better actually, because in 20s and 30s there is peer pressure, there is family pressure, you are under a lot of things, So, I think, the maturity of a person is based on the emotional reaction of a person at a young age.
Juvaria Abbasi & Adeel Haider
Both Juvaria and Adeel agreed that relationships in later life can be just as fulfilling as those formed in youth. They suggested that maturity often brings a clearer understanding of one’s needs and desires, enabling individuals to form deeper connections. They believed that age should not dictate one’s capacity for love and fulfillment, and both men and women should seek happiness without the weight of societal judgment.
Are We Ready For A Shift In Mindsets And Relationships?
Both Juvaria Abbasi and Adeel Haider emphasized the need to shift societal mindsets. They acknowledged that parents often feel insecure about their children’s choices, impacting their views on remarriage after loss. Juvaria pointed out the misconception that a single parent should not pursue happiness or companionship. Adeel added that children must understand their parents’ emotional needs. They agreed that changing perceptions will take time, but it’s essential for societal growth.
I think our togetherness is love. When we are together, it’s love.
Juvaria Abbasi & Adeel Haider
They discussed how love evolves over time. Adeel noted that patience is crucial in relationships, and effective communication helps resolve conflicts. Both shared their experiences of navigating their relationship without traditional pressures, allowing them to connect as friends and partners. Juvaria emphasized that understanding each other’s individuality plays a vital role in a successful partnership.
It’s high time we break away from societal pressures that dictate how we should love and live, especially after loss. And for others, to be more inclusive and accepting of everyone’s life choices. Juvaria Abbasi and Adeel Haider’s conversation serves as a powerful reminder that we should view happiness and companionship as essential, not luxuries for single parents. Let’s challenge outdated norms and encourage a society where love thrives on connection and understanding, not rigid expectations.
Stay tuned for full interview coming out soon on FUCHSIA’s YouTube channel.
