Aleezay continues to suffer and the intensity has increased, here is what we think her father could do to help her break from Sherry’s abuse in Jaisay Aapki Marzi.
Jaisay Aapki Marzi has been produced by Six Sigma Plus. The project is penned by Naila Jaffri and directed by Saba Hameed. The cast includes Mikaal Zulfiqar as Sherry, Dur e Fishan Saleem, Javed Sheikh and Kiran Malik, Ali Tahir, Ali Safina in leading roles as part of an ensemble cast. This drama airs on ARY Digital.
Jaisay Aapki Marzi continues to take us along the painstaking and toxic path of Sherry as he makes Alizeh suffer, breaks her emotionally and mentally, mistreats her and makes sure she doesn’t enjoy her sister’s celebrations. The sudden flips in his personality, the challenges for Aleezay and her parents’ concern keep us curious, sometimes questioning certain conversations. Aleezay is now totally broken….in despair, agony and confusion. We genuinely felt for her in this episode but at the same time we wanted her to register what exactly had happened – how Sherry really in that moment wasn’t mad about his name not being added on Ramza’s shaadi invite but rather, the fact that she had Meerab drop her to the salon.
Sherry Strikes Again
But Alizeh kept begging and pleading Sherry to come along with her, completely forgetting about what just happened, how he screamed at her, forced her to leave the salon and made her taking a drop from her brother-in-law such a big deal. Even when she reaches home for Ramza’s dholki, she is dishevelled and in utter despair, blaming her sister for everything. In classic victim behaviour she lays the blame on others who can take it. It might have been beneficial for her to communicate with her sister and mother, explaining why she couldn’t get ready or why Sherry had abruptly dropped her off. Perhaps their insight could have helped her comprehend the gravity of Sherry’s actions, as she seemed oblivious to their significance.
Too Little Too Late – What Should Aleezay’s Father Do Next?
We’ve grasped Sherry’s character, recognizing his abusive tendencies and erratic behavior several episodes ago. Now, it’s time for the narrative to progress. This particular episode could have been presented to the audience much earlier in the drama. Aleezay’s father listened to her mother and agreed on calling Sherry to invite him to Ramza’s wedding. But now of course, Sherry is not going to receive the phone – though the question is, should Ehtisham saab be polishing his son-in-law’s ego? Running after him as per the supreme ‘Damad Protocol’? We would say nope. We as a society have conditioned ourselves and all those around us to believe that the damad protocol is a requisite and son-in-laws are rather entitled to it.
But yes, Ehtisham Saab could have handled the situation much better and more smartly earlier. Here’s what he should be thinking of doing now to save his daughter:
1. Play It Smart
Fathers should be smart enough, know when to say what, how to act when and specially depending on the person to be dealt with Be as twisted Sherry’s shrewd style because right now, Ehtishaam’s daughter is nearing breaking point. Fathers should be smart enough, know what and when to speak up and specially tailor their approach to the individual before them. It’s crucial to be as strategic and clever as Sherry’s sharp style, especially since his daughter’s nerves are clearly shattered.
He needs to be less blatant and fight the battle cleverly, adopting Sherry’s shrewdness. Be nice to him on his face so Sherry can’t gather more ammunition for his daughter because all his erraticness right now is just creating more hurdles for Aleezay which she is not going to realize is Sherry’s own real self, but instead, blame it on her father.
2. Set His Ego Aside
Ehtishaam Saab must set aside his ego and recognize, for the sake of his daughter’s well-being, that he needs to listen and agree to what she’s asking right now, understanding how crucial it is for her to have his support. It’s essential for him to fulfil her requests, engage in conversation, comprehend her thought process, and be her safe space.
To truly understand her needs and set her free, he must avoid pushing her away even more. Instead of confronting Sherry directly, he should prioritize being tactful while talking to his daughter, explaining his perspective. Rather than creating additional obstacles, his focus should be on empowering his daughter to ultimately take a decision herself and one that safeguards her wellbeing.
3. Maybe Get Aleezay To Talk To A Therapist
Nobody is able to help Aleezay recognize she is being emotionally and mentally abused. She is defending her abuser and blaming all those around her. Alizeh’s dad can get her to talk to a third party who will listen to her POV and give her a neutral judgement which hopefully Aleezay would understand. If she chooses not to, he can make a deal with Aleezay – he will be cordial with Sherry but she has to at least talk to a therapist, understand his thought process, share what’s happening with a neutral person. Maybe, just maybe that sets her on the path to freedom…?
What do you think Aleezay’s father should be doing next?
